In reviewing my childhood, I’m surprised that I understood my emotions so that I knew how to sooth myself from anxious thoughts. I remember being overly anxious about taking any tests in school so I learned to over-prepare to reduce my anxieties. I didn’t develop negative self-talk that I shouldn’t feel nervous. I just accepted that I was a worrisome child, and came up with strategies to reduce my anxieties. That was innate wisdom in action.
Ultimately, self-compassion is a form of self-acceptance. We can learn to accept being a human being with incredible range of sensitivities and complex psychology. Parents just send children to school to fill their heads with academic knowledge. Teachers don’t have time to teach us about how to manage our minds and our decision processes. These high level skills and sensibilities must be learned on our own through deeper self-awareness.
It’s possible to practice self-compassion daily by developing a habit of pausing to evaluate if you need to accept something in your life that you’ve developed some negative judgement around. Just make a list of things that you should take care of, and stop giving attention to the reasons why they haven’t been done. I call this “Paper Therapy,” because my writing down what causes most anxiety, I have a method of tracking them. I reward myself for facing the resistance with self-compassion by doing something nice for myself. These small and simple habits of taking action towards a goal, and rewarding ourselves with self-compassion is like having an internal friend who is always cheering you on. Eventually, self-compassion becomes a life-long companion.
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